Finally back…

Good evening!   First off, I would like to apologize.  Some of you have asked if I was going to blog again.  Yes.  I realize it’s been a  quite a long time since my last post.  A small portion of that is due to our travels, but mostly it was simply my lack of effort toward writing a post.  

Full disclosure ahead:   I started the blog, as you know, as a way for me to send some positive thoughts and uplifting ideas to our young people.  We all know that life is challenging, and I figured, “I’m older and have a lot of life experiences.  Maybe I can say something to help them through their days.”   It sounded like a great idea at the time.  I think it is still a good one, but I realized recently that there’s more to the idea than I had originally embraced.  You see,…I stopped blogging because I found myself in a not-so-healthy, not-so-positive headspace.  I appreciate the sentiment that people share with me:  that I’m strong, my outlook encourages others, etc.  That’s so very thoughtful and it’s the image I want to present to the world.  Unfortunately, it’s not always true.  I had reached a point where I was just simply angry.  I was frustrated with the day to day reality of my cancer and I was in no way feeling positive or sending out positive vibes into the world. I didn’t think that was a time to blog.

Fast forward to today.  I have come to realize that I should have posted about it back then.  That would have been an honest appraisal of what life looks like sometimes.  The reality is that we aren’t always going to be happy and feel positive or optimistic.  And that is OKAY!!!  That’s the message I want to share.  We don’t have to pretend that all is well.  In fact, we need to embrace and accept the feelings that we are feeling.  It’s ok to be sad, or angry, or frustrated, or happy, or enthusiastic, or irate.  As long as we accept where we are, we can move forward (or back) as needed.

So, I guess, mostly, I hope that you’ll all come back to the blog (if you want to!).  I am ready to start writing again.  The posts will probably focus on more themes than simple positivity from now one, and I will try to be more honest about my own thoughts and feelings, hopefully without too much overload on your part.  Mostly, as before, it’s just my hope that something I share is beneficial to you.


PS:  Tomorrow, I will be adding several posts to the site.  I will be posting blogs from the past when we were using texts instead of this platform.  I want to curate everything in one place.  Feel free to look back at them at your leisure, or if you are newer to the group and never saw the “text” blogs, you might enjoy reading through them.  Many are quite short.  :


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